We all know that women think differently, so it pays to understand their subtle ways.
If you do you’re on your way to a happy and healthy relationship.
You’ve just been married and are looking forward to a happily married life with your wife. A happy marriage however does not happen magically, it calls for a lot of understanding and effort. Here are a few great tips to get you going.
Women love to talk
Talking is part of every woman’s DNA. For women, talking is not just about expressing themselves, it’s also about bonding with each other. Whether it’s just buying a dress or discussing a cousin’s wedding, a woman likes to get into descriptions and discuss in detail. Listen to her and you will instantly endear yourself to her.
Women communicate differently
Everything a woman says is not what she really means, in fact sometimes both can be dramatically different. When your wife asks you, “Would you like to go for this movie next weekend”, don’t get confused, she’s not asking you, she’s telling you she’d like to go. You might also ask her how she feels after a particular situation, she may tell you she’s “okay” she may not be. Don’t go by just her words, look at her emotions and body language and understand your wife.
Appreciate your wife
In the daily routine, you wife would do a million little things for you. Make sure you take enough time to appreciate her. When she has dressed up to go out, she expects you to notice and compliment her. If she has taken the effort to cook a special meal for you, she expects acknowledgement, do let her know how delicious it was. Watch her light up with happiness.
Remember special days
A common complaint that wives have is that their husbands forget special days like birthdays and anniversaries. Set a reminder for your wife’s birthday, your wedding anniversary (remembering her parents’ wedding anniversary will make her feel very loved) and other days special for the two of you. Pamper her on these days with gifts, she will cherish these moments forever.
Women remember everything you said
Women have a powerful memory that records every little thing, even the words you carelessly uttered without thinking. You may have forgotten what you said about your wife’s sister but she’ll never forget. Keep your relationship healthy and happy; be careful with what you say.
Avoid comparisons
Do not compare your wife’s cooking with your mother’s cooking or her other skills with other women. If you praise them, she could get hurt. She wants to be the best in your eyes.
Wives think they know what’s best for you
When your life lovingly picks a shirt for you to wear at work or advises you on finances, sometimes you might appreciate your wife’s concern and sometimes you may not. However, her concern is born out of love for you, so don’t negate it. Listen to her, it’s her way of showing she cares for you.
Keeping these little tips in mind can truly make your marriage a beautiful and fragrant bed of roses.

More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

Why happier couples achieve more

Happiness always works in tandem: the happiness that comes with achievement and the happiness that comes from a cheerful family.

It’s a paired relationship; you can’t have one without the other. Bliss is happiness boiling over and running down both sides of the pot, said Josh Billings.

Management gurus have tried to draw parallels only between war strategies and the strategies for successfully managing a business. Pity. The more relevant lessons come from happy families.

Unless all the entities in a household are happy it cannot be a happy household. This means that the happiness of all its members is equally important. Similarly unless all the stakeholders in a business or all the members in a team are happy it cannot be a happy unit. It’s a complementary affiliation.

A family that pulls together in one direction

A happy family cannot be happy if it remains frozen in time as the world around it moves on. Happy families too have aspirations: a new house, a new car and so on. When the spouses and the kids decide to pull in the same direction they will find that they are able to produce more than the sum of their individual efforts and fulfill their dreams. This is true even with businesses. When the different entities work together they invariably find that the result of their effort is better than expected. They call this synergy.

Working together for each other’s happiness

Marriage is never a carefree stroll in the park. There are bound to be glitches. But happy couples don’t throw in the towel. They hang on. They learn to weather the storm. They Work together to resolve problems. They are tenacious. Similarly tenacity is a quintessential element to any successful career.

Happy couples are proactive

Happy couples don’t wait for things to go wrong and then firefight. They are proactive. They plan for the future. Anticipate the glitches and take preemptive action. This is true even for the achievers. They don’t wait for their cheese to be moved. They look for new opportunities before the old ones disappear.

Marriage is not about yourself

Marital bliss isn’t the result of individual effort. It stems from the fact that each member has a role to play and plays that role well even though the end result is not wholly for the member’s benefit but for the benefit of the family as a whole. It’s the same with the workplace. Overall benefit takes precedence over individual benefit. The gurus call this teamwork.

Happy couples just as successful careerists believe in learning from the experience of others.

Nirvana at home

Happiness at home and success at the workplace depend to a great extent on planning. Planning for the future and managing it is all about setting practical goals and achieving them. The attendant happiness is nirvana.

Happy couples are practical couples; they know that a married life totally free of friction is fantasy. When there is a problem they put their heads together to resolve it. However they try their best to avoid friction. This is true even with careerists. Friction in professional life is such a waste time, energy and an unnecessary dilution of focus.

Ironically the best advice that Sun Tzu gives in his book “The Art of War” is “The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.”

More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

How to #speak the #language of #men

We all know that women think differently, so it pays to understand their subtle ways.

If you do you’re on your way to a happy and healthy relationship.

You’ve just been married and are looking forward to a happily married life with your wife. A happy marriage however does not happen magically, it calls for a lot of understanding and effort. Here are a few great tips to get you going.

Women love to talk

Talking is part of every woman’s DNA. For women, talking is not just about expressing themselves, it’s also about bonding with each other. Whether it’s just buying a dress or discussing a cousin’s wedding, a woman likes to get into descriptions and discuss in detail. Listen to her and you will instantly endear yourself to her.

Women communicate differently

Everything a woman says is not what she really means, in fact sometimes both can be dramatically different. When your wife asks you, “Would you like to go for this movie next weekend”, don’t get confused, she’s not asking you, she’s telling you she’d like to go. You might also ask her how she feels after a particular situation, she may tell you she’s “okay” she may not be. Don’t go by just her words, look at her emotions and body language and understand your wife.

Appreciate your wife

In the daily routine, you wife would do a million little things for you. Make sure you take enough time to appreciate her. When she has dressed up to go out, she expects you to notice and compliment her. If she has taken the effort to cook a special meal for you, she expects acknowledgement, do let her know how delicious it was. Watch her light up with happiness.

Remember special days

A common complaint that wives have is that their husbands forget special days like birthdays and anniversaries. Set a reminder for your wife’s birthday, your wedding anniversary (remembering her parents’ wedding anniversary will make her feel very loved) and other days special for the two of you. Pamper her on these days with gifts, she will cherish these moments forever.

Women remember everything you said

Women have a powerful memory that records every little thing, even the words you carelessly uttered without thinking. You may have forgotten what you said about your wife’s sister but she’ll never forget. Keep your relationship healthy and happy; be careful with what you say.

Avoid comparisons

Do not compare your wife’s cooking with your mother’s cooking or her other skills with other women. If you praise them, she could get hurt. She wants to be the best in your eyes.

Wives think they know what’s best for you

When your life lovingly picks a shirt for you to wear at work or advises you on finances, sometimes you might appreciate your wife’s concern and sometimes you may not. However, her concern is born out of love for you, so don’t negate it. Listen to her, it’s her way of showing she cares for you.

Keeping these little tips in mind can truly make your marriage a beautiful and fragrant bed of roses.

More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

Forgiveness is the first step towards healing in any relationship. How can you do it?

A compassionate heart, an open mind and a will to make your marriage flourish can make all the difference to the future of your relationship with your spouse.
Focus on the positives
Sure your partner caused you some pain by an act that was forgettable, but there must be many things about them that you love. Think of the times when your spouse went out of the way to please you or did something to bring a smile on your face. Doing so will remind you that your marriage is worth making the effort for, and will make it much easier for you to forgive your spouse. In the end, it is all about love.

Forgive from the heart
Whether you’re the husband or the wife, simply saying “I forgive you” does not amount to much if it doesn’t come from the heart. Your words may pacify your spouse momentarily but they will not lead to a peaceful resolution. It is important to internalize the feeling of forgiveness and come to terms with it. If you still find yourself thinking about your spouse’s mistakes and continue to bring them up in conversation, you probably haven’t forgiven them completely. Only when you are at peace with yourself, will you be able to maintain peace and love in your marriage.
Don’t dwell on the past
Nothing good ever came out of hanging on to old grudges. Raking up past issues and harping on your partner’s mistakes only compounds the feelings of negativity and creates rifts that are difficult to bridge. Every human being, including you, can make mistakes but how you let them affect your marriage is entirely your decision. Let bygones be bygones, embrace the present and work as a team to create a happy future.
It is for your own good
Bottled up feelings of hurt and resentment can eat you on the inside if you do not find a way to channel them out of your system. Not only do they make you a bitter and negative person, they also make your vulnerable to depression and health issues. Once you have addressed the issue with your partner and received an apology, it is in your own interest to treat the matter compassionately and bury the hatchet.
Resentment and grudges are toxins that threaten to weaken the foundation of your relationship if allowed to brew for too long. Letting go, on the other hand, lifts the burden off your chest and leads your relationship back on the path of normalcy. Which of these would you want choose?
We all have our imperfections, which is why nature has bestowed on us the ability to forgive. Forgiveness is a powerful human quality that gives a deeper meaning to our existence and helps us tide over life’s big and small obstacles.
More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

#The #beauty of #marriage

What’s unique is that our spouse is the only relationship that we can choose.

Most of the relationships in life are not based on our choice – mother, father, brother, sister, and relatives. Even when it comes to friends, it’s mostly not a choice exercised by us. Just because we attend a certain school, college, live in a flat or colony we become friends with some.

But marriage is the only relationship…

- you can choose

- where you spend most of your lifetime

- share everything in life, physical and mental

Marriage is a great relationship that helps you discover a new dimension in you. It’s a path to fulfillment and happiness in life. It’s a natural way for males and females who are two different parts of life to come together and find meaning.

In fact marriage makes every human being complete. “Marriage is an opportunity to achieve a union that will open up a greater possibility,” says Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev in Three Truths of Well Being.

Marriage is the most important decision you’ll ever make in life.

The question then is are you investing enough time to choose

- the most important relationship of your life

- to find the person who cares for what you love

- to find happiness in your life

More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

Happiness through the smiles of another

The true happiness that comes from loving and being loved is enduring and defies description.

There is something in common between the abominable snowman and happiness: they are both elusive. At least those who go looking for the mysterious snowman have some clue as to what he looks like. But those who seek happiness have only an indistinct notion about their goal.

And yet there is not a single human being who is not searching for happiness. They begin to look for happiness in the fulfillment of their basic needs. When those basic needs are satisfied they feel that lasting happiness does not lie there and shift their focus to mental and emotional needs.

Lasting happiness is not there either. Lasting happiness lies in love.

This love begins with love for oneself. And the happiness from selflove accrues by living your life resisting fear, and experiencing life feeling worthy and satisfied. The fear of rejection by others and the struggle to live up to the expectations of others make us feel unworthy of happiness. They make us believe that we still fall short of deserving happiness.

Striving for perfection is an obsession; we seek perfection to guard ourselves against external criticism. This is because we focus outside ourselves.

There is nothing wrong with being who we are. The day we begin to be at peace with ourselves we begin to feel happy. The day we begin to feel gratitude for what we are and what we have we begin to feel that this happiness is durable. To those to whom all this sounds like philosophical mumbo jumbo, rest assured that these are the basic bolts and nuts of lasting happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind. When you realise this you are ready to take happiness to a higher plane. A significant way of doing this is to find a spouse. Finding a spouse is finding something good and you will be blessed for it. It is also the ultimate fulfillment of life’s purpose.

But married life is not always a bed of roses. Challenges are an adjunct of life itself whether married or single. Focus on eliminating difficulties together.

Focus after marriage shifts from self love to love for the spouse. Only those who pursue happiness through the happiness of their spouse will get pleasure from marriage. There is nothing wrong in seeking your own happiness. But the pursuit of happiness should not be limited to looking for happiness for oneself alone.

Only those who seek happiness in the happiness of their spouse will experience true joy.

The happiness that comes from loving someone and having someone who loves you is enduring and defies description.

More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com

Managing Disappointments in the Relationship

Disappointment is like worry and care. It can be painful when it’s within a relationship.
I like the Chinese for a few reasons. Their food is delicious. Their toys are great. You should try their proverbs sometime. Here’s an one: “That the birds of worry and care fly over your head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent”. Witty and true.
Disappointments are a part of life. They creep in when your expectations do not change. The situation gets worse when each partner insists on vehemently clinging onto their premarital identities and believe that the honeymoon will never end.
How does one deal with disappointments?
As a first step let us get some myths out of the way:
The perfect life is a myth.
The perfect partner is a myth.
And so is the perfect relationship.
That done, let us to reconcile to the fact that relationships bring with them a medley of situations: great times, tough times and a mixed bag of in-betweens that include disappointments.
Often the cause of disappointments is in believing that the partner does not change. Both partners change. They change physically and temperamentally. And neither of them is to blame. It is the force of circumstances that brings about these changes: career, workload, children and a variety of other conditions.
Redefine your relationship. In the beginning, your partner’s primary concern was your happiness. However, as time goes by other concerns creep in. There are so many new issues competing for your spouse’s energy and attention. You can no longer expect to be the centre of your partner’s universe; so tone down your expectations.
Accept that neither of you is infallible. Both of you are prone to make mistakes. It is quite possible that on occasions you are the cause of disappointment. If this is the case apologise. And let your apology be sincere.
During courtship and even in the early years of marriage your partner did whatever you had anticipated: act in a certain way, think the way you do, do certain things for you and respond to things in a predetermined manner. Do not expect that your partner will continue to behave like this. As years go by, circumstances determine your partner’s behaviour.
Communicate your disappointment to your spouse. But do not attack. Rather explain the reason for disappointment. Neither of you wants to make the other unhappy. There is no relationship in which one partner is happy while the other is unhappy. It is therefore reasonable to expect that both partners will wholeheartedly resolve unsavory situations.
Empathise with your spouse. Empathy transforms anger into remorse and forgiveness. In every healthy relationship, if one of the partners is the cause of disappointment it is logical to conclude that it was either inadvertent or the consequence of circumstance.
Learn to control your ego, emotions and expectations surrounding your relationship. When you do this, you will be creating more peace in your life and make the relationship more pleasurable.
Focus on the happiness of your spouse. This will encourage reciprocity.
Do your part sincerely and everything else will fall in place.More Details Visit Us On: www.lagnavidhi.com